I don't know if I'm the right person to address this topic. Quite frankly, I've been an absolute failure at finding emotional support for myself through my husbands addiction. It's been me, my husband, and Heavenly Father. Sounds like a perfect team right? And I know that it is. Only thing is,
women need other women. We are a gift to each other from Heavenly Father. How I longed for a dear friend to cry with me and help shoulder the burden of sorrow I carried for so many years. I just didn't know where to look. Or maybe I was afraid. I saw women who's marriages fell apart because of addiction and they were filled with bitterness and despair. Satan used pornography to destroy both husband and wife. One with addiction and the other with despair, blame and hate.
I now have three dear friends who know about this part of my life and still love and support me and my husband. Seriously, I get all choked up just thinking about it. What good, good women and what a gift their friendship is!
My hope in starting this blog is that you might find more support than I did. Maybe my experience will help you seek a friend sooner. Maybe we can be that friend for each other.
Love,
Elisabeth
I love that we can lean on each other! That is why we have each other. We travel a difficult road and then look to lift and help others on the way. LDS.org has a beautiful video of a wife and husband overcoming this same addiction. It can be found by clicking on http://overcomingpornography.org/family-and-friends/recovery-stories/meet-kerri?lang=eng
ReplyDeleteI have to agree that we need each other! We need to know that we are not alone in this fight! I truly believe that one of Satan's best tools in hurting women and bringing depression is isolation. Unfortunately, our society, while being in everyone's business through social media and such, is very much an isolationist society. We fool ourselves into thinking we're social by commenting and liking people's posts, texting and such, but I feel very much alone - physically alone. Thank you for reaching out! I wish we could find a way to meet up and be real life friends! (((HUGS))
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